Life Update + 2018 Goals

Haaaaappy January and happy snow day!  I have been snuggled up on the couch in my pajamas all day with a glass of chocolate milk in my favorite mug (pretending to be a grown up with this mug but I hate hot drinks!) lesson planning, wedding planning, and watching Netflix and loving every second of it.

Can you believe it is 2018?! And you know what that means – IT’S WEDDING YEAR!  When Stephen and I first got engaged, 2018 seemed like a million years away, yet here we are and it feels like no time has passed at all.  I have a feeling 2018 is going to be a BIG year, and not just because I’m getting a husband (though that will be a huge part of it!).

There have already been some big changes in the works that I wanted to fill everyone in on!

First of all, I GOT A JOB! How fitting that my last post was about sitting back and letting my plan run its own course and then literally the next day I was offered my dream job – lesson learned!  I will be starting my job as Highcroft Drive Elementary School’s newest 2nd Grade teacher on January 22nd.  While I am heartbroken about leaving all my nearest and dearest friends at Alston Ridge, I know that we are given life in seasons, and while one of the greatest, Alston Ridge was but a season in my own life — a season that I will look back on fondly for the rest of my life and that will follow me forever with the lasting friendships I gained in my time there.  2nd Grade has always been my end-goal, so this job feels like a huge accomplishment to me!  I can’t wait to dive right into the 2nd Grade team at Highcroft!

On a less-but-increasingly-more-definite note, Stephen has become aware of some internship and externship prospects that are making it more and more likely that he will have to move to another state for a period of time — when, where, and for how long is very much up in the air (but that’s what keeps life interesting!), but there is a real chance that a portion of our first year of marriage is going to be long-distance!  Stephen and I have never had a long-distance relationship before so it will be interesting and challenging, of course, but life with Stephen has always been an adventure and we are totally up for it!

We have our first travel plans of 2018! I splurged on two tickets to the Eagles concert so in March we’ll be road tripping to Tennessee to see my very favorite band in concert! We’re not sure yet if Stephen will be able to go so it may just be me and my sister but either way I am SO excited! Fun fact – the day after I splurged on these concert tickets the Eagles announced concert dates here in Raleigh, but at least this way it’s more adventurous!  Of course we’ll be heading to Charleston throughout the year (we really try to go every 3-4 months), and we are hoping to add at least a couple other stops to our itinerary for the year as well, but with Stephen’s crazy schedule you just really never know, but traveling (cheaply) is definitely on our priority list.  Of course, if he moves out of state, that will open up a whole new set of adventures for us to go on…

New Year, New Goals

2017 was a year full of goals — some achieved, some not, but setting goals throughout the year has led to me coming closer to achieving my best self, and what more can you really ask for?

With that being said, I’ve started thinking about my goals for 2018! Here are just a few of the biggies:

  • Stop comparing myself to others
  • GET MARRIED
  • Pay off remaining wedding vendors (oh, boy)
  • Make more time to build on and harvest friendships (old and new)
  • Read more
  • Prioritize my marriage above everything else
  • Save more
  • Show my whole family how much I appreciate them more
  • Travel
  • Work on my fitness
  • Be more present in my own life

That list is definitely going to stretch and mold and change probably before the month is even over, but it is definitely a start!

I am so ready to get started on my goals for 2018!

Thanks for stopping by!

Sydney

Learning Patience in a Time of Waiting

Friends, I have a confession to make.  I am probably the world’s most impatient person.  There, I said it.  When I make my mind up about something, I want it to happen nownowNOW.  Not the most flattering or selfless trait, I admit.

And I have found that, especially for people of my generation, the tunnel-mindedness of being impatient runs rampant in a lot of us– probably more than we’d like to admit.  The truth is it’s easy to be impatient because if you think about it, we don’t really have to wait  on many things these days.  Any song, recipe, picture, even person, is available at our fingertips and our discretion so why would I even want to learn patience?

I am learning that while true patience may not be needed very often, when it is needed, it is very important and very, very difficult to master and accept.  It’s hard to wait.  It is especially hard to wait on things you don’t know yet, on questions you not only don’t have the answers to, but you don’t even know when you’ll get the answers.   And the only reason I know this is because I am currently struggling with it in my own life.

To say that I am in a season of waiting in my life right now would be an understatement.  I am waiting, but there are a lot of things I don’t even know that I am waiting for.  The most obvious thing in my life that I am waiting for is a job.  I am in that not-so-sweet spot  in life of having graduated but still looking for a job.  And let me tell you, the pressure. Is.  ON.  From all different facets of my life I am feeling the pressure of finding a job but perhaps the most pressure I feel is that of which is coming from within myself.  I have always been hard on myself and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t disappointed in myself for not already having something lined up, despite the fact that it has been completely out of my own control.

In my impatient time of looking for a job I am realizing that I am sacrificing being present in the parts of my life that were important to me before this time of waiting began.  One example of this would be my current job.  Sure, it’s not the job I ever intended to stay in forever, but I have 19 Kindergarteners counting on me to form each day into a block that will be added to the foundation of their educational careers.  That can’t be taken lightly.  In constantly looking ahead (in this case constantly checking my phone and email for interview opportunities), I am forgetting to look right in front of me.

Patience in Wedding Planning

As of right now our wedding day is 4 months, 16 days, 8 hours, 15 minutes, and 3 seconds away (but who’s counting, right?).  It is crunch time.  Deadlines are coming up, invoices are coming due, and I am starting to feel like I am completely out of control and completely unprepared — two things I swore I would never let myself feel during the wedding planning process.

Most of the stress is financial-related, of course, and I am constantly looking for where our next source of income is going to come from.  I’ll be getting a second job (yes, even if I get a full-time, post-graduation job) to try to fill in some of the gaps in our budget in January, so of course my mind is already racing and my fingers are already buzzing as I search the Internet for potential evening and weekend positions.  It’s a tough position to be in to be searching for a job in retail or food service at 23 years old with a Master’s Degree, but if nothing else it keeps you humble.

I digress, in thinking about money and getting another job and getting our invoices paid off, I am missing out on my very favorite time of year — the holidays.  Nothing makes me happier than sitting back wherever I am at this point in December and taking in all the Christmas spirit and warmth that fills our souls as we prepare to spend time with our loved ones, and I admit to you that I have been so stressed, so busy, so impatient that we are now one week away from Christmas and I feel as though I haven’t felt my beloved “Christmas Cheer” even once.

More important than Christmas cheer, though, is that I am forgetting to relish this time as I prepare to become a wife.  This should be a joyous season of waiting as I prepare my heart to pursue a Christ-centered marriage and life with my soon-to-be husband.   Now more than ever I need to focus on making Stephen my priority and looking up from my computer more than just occasionally to see how he’s doing and if I can be helpful to him in any way.   No matter how busy we get, we need to be putting in the effort now to be preparing my marriage for later.  My granddaddy says marriage is like a box.  You can’t take anything out of a box until you’ve put something in it.  In marriage both partners put things into their box (companionship, forgiveness, trust, empathy, and commitment, just to name a few) and both partners take things out (as life gets tough and you run into obstacles as a couple); but if you take more things out of your box than you put into it, your box is empty.  Keeping your box full takes work and a lot of it.  And I need to focus on filling our box now rather than later.

Still there?

So, what can we do?  What will I do?  I will learn patience in this time of waiting.  I will accept that I’m not the one in control of my plan and that my only purpose right now is to be present in my own life.  It is impossible to be content in such a stressful time of life if I am trying to take control of a plan that isn’t mine to change.  The job will come, the wedding will get paid for, and I will get the answers I have been looking for in His time.  To be impatient is to rob yourself of your own joy.  As Brittney Moses so beautifully stated, “In every season it is God’s will that we are matured and equipped for the next.”

So rather than lounging around in my own bitterness and discomfort, I am going to trust that what’s going to come will come, and I am going to do the only true job I have at the moment — I am going to be present in my own life.

And I hope you can too.

Thanks for stopping by!

Sydney

10 Fun Facts About Me & Stephen

Happy Friday!  As of today I am tracked out for the next three weeks which makes me one happy student teacher!  I don’t have many wedding updates to share (though I did order my bouquet for my bridal portraits!), so I figured I’d do something fun instead!  Here are ten things you may not know about me and Stephen:

  1. Our favorite thing to do together (and the thing we have missed the very most by saving for a wedding) is going out to eat! We love trying new places and becoming regulars at our favorites.  Eating out is seriously OUR LIFE so I can’t wait to start doing it again regularly after the wedding is paid for!
  2. Our second favorite thing to do is go on adventures of any magnitude.  Our first summer together (back in 2012!) was full of adventures ranging from going to Sunni Skies Ice Cream in Angier late at night to going to Disney World! Since then we’ve made a point to stay adventurous and plan on going on our biggest adventure yet when we go on a delayed extended honeymoon after Stephen takes the NC Bar!  We have plans to explore different destinations in Europe and Greece and we can’t wait!202519_10151123984239884_227798032_o
  3. We get mistaken for twins…a lot.  We’ve chosen not to delve into any deeper meanings behind why we’ve ended up with partners that apparently look exactly like ourselves (lol) but I personally see zero resemblance! We surely are amused when we get asked if we’re twins after holding hands or kissing in public!IMG_7766
  4. Children won’t be on our radar for a few more years (we have too many adventures to go on first!), but we already have all our kids’ (first and middle) names picked out! They are all family names with the exception of one from one of my favorite pieces of literature and are all unisex as we plan to keep the genders a surprise when that time comes! We will also be keeping the names a secret (even from our families) until they are born!
  5. We are both OBSESSED with spicy food.  Obsessed. We tend to find the spiciest thing on the menu when we go out to eat and always ask them to make it even spicier…then we are almost always disappointed when it isn’t spicy enough! Stephen’s dad’s hot sauce company has been amazing because we finally have a hot sauce that is spicy enough for us! We put it on pretty much everything.
  6. Before I met Stephen I had never left the Carolina’s! I was so lucky his parents were willing to take me to Daytona Beach back in the summer of 2012 and we haven’t really stopped traveling since! We’ve been to California, Florida multiple times, Indianapolis, New York, and so many more places! I love that Stephen’s traveling heart loves to wander as much as mine!
  7. We are both total nerds at heart! We both love to read and I love to write and I think if it didn’t cost money we would both take classes for the rest of our lives! We love to be educated and have intellectual conversations about pretty much everything under the sun.  We aren’t afraid to disagree with each other and I think that’s a good thing! We are constantly challenging each other to stretch ourselves to learn more and assume less!  On the same note, we are total Star Wars geeks! Ask me any Star Wars question and I can assure you I will answer it correctly!
  8. Speaking of which…I have officially brought Stephen to the dark side — he is 100% a cat person because of me!  While we both still love dogs, I don’t think we’ll ever feel as passionately about them as we do cats.  We found our cat Myrtle under a bush at Stephen’s grandparents’ house in Vanceboro, brought her home, and our lives have never been the same since!  She and her brother Mac are our lives!
  9. Our hearts always have and always will reside in Raleigh.  There’s a reason Stephen decided to propose to me with the Raleigh skyline in the background and that it’s also featured on our guestbook alternative!  Raleigh is home to some of our most cherished memories and we fell in love with it and each other simultaneously during our first few years there!   It houses our favorite restaurants, shops, and places to walk around (hello, NC State campus!).  A lot of things are changing in the next year or so as Stephen interviews for jobs, but I pray that we can end up back in Raleigh some day and raise our children in the same amazing city we fell in love with!
  10. Despite our many shared physical features, Stephen and I are total opposites in about a million ways. Our personalities could not be more different – Stephen is very quiet and reserved and I tend to be a little more lively and vivacious (or ‘crazy’ as Stephen likes to call it🤷🏼‍♀️). He loves social events (good thing he’s the attorney!) while I am more of a homebody. He likes to go to bed at a semi-reasonable hour while I am always up until all hours of the night. I am more creative while Stephen is more practical. Stephen focuses on the big picture while I become obsessed with tiny details. I could probably go on about how different we are for days, but somehow it works and it works beautifully! I think our relationship is the perfect example of balance, which I think is so important not only in relationships but also in life! And I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂 I seriously couldn’t imagine a better partner to walk through life with and I feel so blessed it’s Stephen!

    Photo courtesy of Six Foot Photography❤️

Thanks for stopping by!

Sydney

Meet the Maids: Katie

I am so excited to have this lady standing next to me on my wedding day! I could not imagine our big day without her.  And bonus: she is also engaged right now and we have had a blast reveling in this season of our lives together, relying on each other for wedding advice and comic relief when things get stressful!  I was so honored to say ‘yes’ to her when she asked me to be one of her bridesmaids as well!  In addition to being as cute as a button, Katie is an amazing and loyal friend and I am so thankful for her friendship!

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Katie and I first met at Meredith College our freshman year – we shared a suite in Faircloth Hall and had countless sleepovers and endless conversations about what we thought our lives would be like in the future and what our weddings would be like among many other things. While our lives and weddings may be totally different than we had imagined them back then, Katie and I are in total agreement that God’s plans should be trusted above all else and that the paths we’ve been led down have been so much better than anything we could have ever imagined!

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I love that I can always trust Katie to make me laugh and to bring the humor to any situation.  She has been a key resource for me to turn to when I find myself getting caught up in materialistic things regarding our wedding — I can always count on her to bring me back down to earth and remind me what I’m actually planning for — a strong, Christ-centered marriage!  She is forever reminding me not to take life too seriously or get caught up in the things that don’t matter.  I have been so lucky to have her around during the crazy process of wedding planning because whenever I am panicking about something she always knows how to calm me down!

 

Katie is getting married in less than two months!!!! So I am looking so forward to celebrating her over the coming weeks.  We have had such a fun time both being engaged at the same time! I am seriously so lucky to have her in my life and I can’t wait to see what’s in store for us next!

Thanks for stopping by!

Sydney

August Goals

Happy, happy August, friends! I am thrilled because August is one month closer to fall and I am SO ready for some cooler weather!  It also means that as of Saturday, our wedding is officially less than 9 months away!!! July was a huge month for both me and Stephen! First of all, I have to brag on him because he is officially Stephen Spivey, Certified Public Accountant! And yes, he IS still in law school and working this summer.  I seriously could not be more proud of him.  He works so hard and it shows constantly!  I have started a new school year with 19 new Kindergarteners and we are off to a great start! I am student teaching while still maintaining my responsibilities as a TA while also enrolled as a graduate student — this semester is about to be a wild ride but I am ready for it! We also attended our first premarital counseling session with my Granddaddy which was so special! He shared with us the first piece of scripture that he’ll be using for our ceremony as well as some things we can be working on as we prepare for our marriage in order to keep our relationship strong from the start! He and my Mimi have been happily married for over 60 years and are the perfect example of what marriage should look like! 

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While July was a big month, we are not showing any signs of slowing down in August.  Here’s what I’m hoping to achieve this month:

  • Continue supporting Stephen wholeheartedly through allll the interviewing he’s going to be doing over the next several weeks
  • Jump right into student teaching full time, preparing my lesson plans a week in advance
  • Attend my first dress fitting!
  • Officially book my venue for my bridal portraits (in Charleston!!!)
  • Schedule at least two tutoring sessions (I’ve been tutoring on the side for extra money to add to the wedding account!)
  • Study for and take my licensure tests (omg)
  • Do a total closet clean out
  • Get my oil changed and have my brakes replaced (least favorite part of being an adult)

I can’t believe how quickly this last year of our engagement is flying by.  I have been planning like crazy for the last 14 months but am already feeling the pressure! We have a lot of big wedding things planned for the next couple of months (including one day spent with my amazing planner where basically the rest of our BIG decisions are going to be made in September) and I can’t wait to share more with y’all soon!

Thanks for stopping by!

-Sydney