Talking about your own wedding registry is always a little awkward because it should never be assumed that your wedding guests will get you a gift, but at the same time IF a wedding guest wants to give you and your new spouse something, it is most frequently going to be off of your wedding registry. I have been “working” on our registry for about a year now, and I have learned A LOT over the course of that year. Here are some things the Southern bride should keep in mind when it comes to wedding registries:
First of all, you should never put information about your registries on your Save the Dates or on your invitations. This comes back to the fact that you shouldn’t assume your guests will be bringing a gift! Wedding websites were created for a reason! Put the link to your website on your Save the Date and link your online registries there. You can also rely on your parents and the wedding party to spread the word about where you’re registered.
There are a gazillion places you can register at — pick a couple of places that you frequently shop at and that you feel will be most accessible to any wedding guests who would like to get you something. For example, as much as I LOVE Pottery Barn and would be tempted to register there, it’s not somewhere I shop frequently and a lot of our guests don’t have a Pottery Barn near them!
If you would like to go a non-traditional route (like a honeymoon registry), consider also creating a smaller traditional wedding registry for those guests who would like to get you something physical that they can wrap. Some people may be unfamiliar with honeymoon registries and would feel more comfortable bringing you something more traditional!
Make sure your registry (or registries) are true to YOU! If you are not the fine china kind of people (not gonna lie, Stephen and I fall into this category), don’t feel pressured to register for fine china! It may have been a wedding registry essential item years ago, but the times have changed and if you don’t want to register for fine china, you don’t have to! If your guests are going to be generous enough to spend their money on something you registered for, it should be something you really truly feel you will use.
When adding to your registry, make sure you have a healthy mix of high and low price items. You may feel uncomfortable registering for that $300 mixer, but it actually provides a great opportunity for multiple guests to go in together on a gift like that. On the same note, make sure you have a few $20-$50 items for guests that would like to purchase a gift, but are unable to spend too much money.
Stephen and I are going the more non-traditional route for MANY reasons. We are in our third year living together, so when it comes to plates, cups, towels, sheets, etc., we are pretty much set! We’ve accumulated all those things over the years and so we felt that registering for them again would be sort of a waste.
One of the things I am most looking forward to in the next few years is homeownership! Unfortunately though there is 0% chance of that happening until Stephen graduates from law school in 2019, then we will need to continue saving our money for a down payment! That means homeownership probably won’t be an option until early 2020 which means we have another 3 years or more before we have a house to fill. Again, I think all the plastic plates and cups we have now will hold us over juuust fine until that stage in our life arrives.
While I love home decor as much as the next girl, registry decisions should not just be made by the bride 🙂 Stephen and I are not super materialistic as a couple and we have always preferred new experiences over gifts. We absolutely love to travel and have made the decision to postpone our honeymoon a few months in order to save up for an extended trip to Europe and Greece that totally suits our travelers’ hearts. We made the decision to register for only a few items that we feel we will really use both now and later and to put any financial gifts we receive towards our honeymoon!
Here are some of the essentials we registered for:
9 Piece Gallery Wall Frame Set – This is actually the very first thing we registered for! I saw this frame set and immediately knew I would love to put our wedding photos in these frames and hang them in a gallery wall in our future home. I have always LOVE photos and taking pictures so a frame set was essential!
A Higher-End Luggage Set – Remember when I said we LOVE to travel? We both have smaller suitcases that are showing their age, so we decided to register for nicer luggage that we can take along with us on our honeymoon!
Ninja Professional Blender – I have heard AMAZING things about this blender! I have heard it’s a necessity for every household. This is a popular model that can be found at multiple places and so we figured it would be a great addition to our wedding registry. Plus, this is one of those gifts that would be great for multiple people to go in on!
I think our registry is a good example of how to keep your wedding registry true to yourself. Picture frames and luggage might not be the first things you think of when you think about a wedding registry, but they’re important to us! Don’t feel like you’re doing it wrong if your wedding registry looks a little different from the checklists you see on Pinterest! Wedding planning is all about staying true to YOU!
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