Happy, happy August, friends! I am thrilled because August is one month closer to fall and I am SO ready for some cooler weather! It also means that as of Saturday, our wedding is officially less than 9 months away!!! July was a huge month for both me and Stephen! First of all, I have to brag on him because he is officially Stephen Spivey, Certified Public Accountant! And yes, he IS still in law school and working this summer. I seriously could not be more proud of him. He works so hard and it shows constantly! I have started a new school year with 19 new Kindergarteners and we are off to a great start! I am student teaching while still maintaining my responsibilities as a TA while also enrolled as a graduate student — this semester is about to be a wild ride but I am ready for it! We also attended our first premarital counseling session with my Granddaddy which was so special! He shared with us the first piece of scripture that he’ll be using for our ceremony as well as some things we can be working on as we prepare for our marriage in order to keep our relationship strong from the start! He and my Mimi have been happily married for over 60 years and are the perfect example of what marriage should look like!
While July was a big month, we are not showing any signs of slowing down in August. Here’s what I’m hoping to achieve this month:
Continue supporting Stephen wholeheartedly through allll the interviewing he’s going to be doing over the next several weeks
Jump right into student teaching full time, preparing my lesson plans a week in advance
Attend my first dress fitting!
Officially book my venue for my bridal portraits (in Charleston!!!)
Schedule at least two tutoring sessions (I’ve been tutoring on the side for extra money to add to the wedding account!)
Study for and take my licensure tests (omg)
Do a total closet clean out
Get my oil changed and have my brakes replaced (least favorite part of being an adult)
I can’t believe how quickly this last year of our engagement is flying by. I have been planning like crazy for the last 14 months but am already feeling the pressure! We have a lot of big wedding things planned for the next couple of months (including one day spent with my amazing planner where basically the rest of our BIG decisions are going to be made in September) and I can’t wait to share more with y’all soon!
Stephen and I have one priority for our wedding day: celebrate with our family and closest friends. We are taking great care of tending to our guest list and keeping it on the smaller side so that everyone who attends can feel truly celebrated with us. Of course, this applies to the friends who will be standing up at the altar with us as well! I’ve decided to do a Meet the Maids series on the blog to introduce you to the most special ladies in my life!
First, I’d like you to meet Carly! She is one of my oldest (and very best) friends! We first met in 2010 when we worked at Sweet Tomatoes and despite being total opposites, our friendship has withstood the test of time! She is hands down one of the most trustworthy people I know and I can always count on her for anything! Plus, she is a fellow NC State grad! When the owner of our wedding venue was discussing the timeline of our reception with us, he asked me which of my bridesmaids could get the party started best; Stephen and I immediately turned to each other and said, “CARLY!” So I can’t wait for our guests to be introduced to her first at the reception! She has such a fun-loving heart and is always trying to get this introvert to venture out of my comfort zone and try new and amazing things! (And I only chicken out about half the time 🙂 )
The amazing thing about Carly is that she simply can’t have too many friends; once you meet her, she will have your back forever! She is definitely one of the most loyal people I have ever met. In fact, Stephen called her the night he was going to propose and asked that she be at the dinner celebration that night and despite the fact that she had plans, she rearranged them just so she could celebrate with us which will always mean the world to me!
I am sooo lucky to have Carly in my life and so glad she agreed to stand next to me on my big day! This description does not even do her justice so I can’t wait for our guests to meet her on the big day!
Happy 4th of July and happy birthday to my favorite country! 🙂 Hope everyone’s day is filled with lots of sunshine and celebration! I’ll be spending the day in Charleston — my favorite place second only to Raleigh!
As I prepare for all the crazy stuff happening in July, I’m taking a look back at my June goals. Here’s how I did:
Join a gym (Check! Joined my local YMCA and I am loving it!)
Go to the gym at least three times a week(I’m going to half-check this one. I did make it to the gym 2-3 times per week all month though, so that’s definitely a start!)
Deposit $500 into the wedding account (Check! I was able to deposit money that would have gone towards rent into the wedding account! Stephen and I have agreed to deposit the same amount of our own money into the wedding account each month.)
Send out invitations for a sweet friend’s bridal shower(Check! That shower will be happening this month and I can’t wait!)
Start reading The Meaning of Marriage with Stephen (This one was a ‘no’ as well. It proved to be too difficult to coordinate our schedules. I am looking forward to completing this goal in July!)
Read one book for fun(Okay, I am going to check this goal off even though I am only 200 pages or so in. That counts, right??)
I haven’t been at this for long but I am loving writing all my goals down and checking back on them at the end of the month. I find holding myself accountable for my goals so valuable. I think it’s so important to always find yourself working towards something; it keeps you grounded and keeps you focused on working towards growth instead of achieving total perfection (which is obviously impossible!).
We have officially been engaged for one year as of June 30th! It has been a wild ride for sure, but we have loved every minute of it. I am always amazed at the growth Stephen and I make every day as we prepare for this wedding and our marriage!
In honor of 365 days of being engaged, I wanted to share our engagement photos on here in case you hadn’t seen them! Our amazing wedding photographer Amber with Six Foot Photography had the SWEETEST little baby in April so she was on maternity leave when we took our pictures. Lucky for us, this meant my Matron of Honor, Krista, got to take our photos instead!
We got to return to our very favorite place (NC State’s campus) for these pictures and I think Krista captured us and how much we love that place perfectly 🙂 We were even featured on the Six Foot Photography Blog here!
We had a blast taking these photos and will cherish them forever!
1 John 4:16: “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.”
#SydneyGoesSpivey 11 months from today! In honor of this milestone I figured I would share with y’all the moment I knew I was going to marry Stephen (it’s kind of a funny one!). In case you’re new here, you should know that my love story with Stephen has been five years in the making! We attended the same school starting in 3rd Grade, but did not officially meet until our second semester of our senior year of high school, where we were seated next to each other in Spanish class. Believe it or not, Stephen did not like me when he first sat next to me! He says he thought I was mean at the time (apparently I don’t have the friendliest of resting faces) and was so annoyed that our teacher put us at the same table! It didn’t take him long to realize that I am, in fact, a pretty nice person (I like to think) and that sitting next to me wasn’t so bad 🙂
Our relationship was very slow-moving and we didn’t actually acknowledge that we were “together-together” until it was time to move in to our dorms at college! Despite the fact that we were at different schools freshman year, our dorms were less than a mile away from each other.
I don’t know about you, but I have always been a night owl (as in, don’t start studying until midnight the night before the exam night owl — my bad!) so my freshman year of college consisted of a lot of late-night Waffle House runs with Stephen. We are creatures of habit, so we always went to the same Waffle House on Hillsborough Street and ordered the same exact thing every single time we went. We even got to know all the staff to the point that we would walk in and they would automatically start on our order without even coming up to our table — they had it memorized! Yes, that is just how regular we were at Waffle House.
Anyway, our late night Waffle House meals together became some of my very favorite meals. We were usually walking in between 1 and 2 in the morning after several hours of studying, so it was nice to come into the quiet, empty restaurant and sit down, unwind, and get our minds off studying for the time being.
Late night Waffle House meals provided rare times during such a busy season of our lives to focus only on each other. We were so young and going through so much, so that quality time spent alone together (even if it was in a super old restaurant that smelled like hash browns and bacon grease) is time that I will cherish for the rest of our lives.
Now, seeing how Waffle House is the center of this story, you should know what our signature orders were! I always ordered (and still do!) a chocolate chip waffle and hash browns with ham, and Stephen always orders a sausage, egg, and cheese sandwich and a side of hash browns with ham. Because his order includes a sandwich, he always got pickles on the side of his plate. Fun fact about me: I. Love. Pickles. Pickles are my favorite and have been since I was little. Seriously. It was only a matter of time until I built up the courage to ask Stephen if I could have one of the pickle chips that came on the side of his plate (I don’t usually ask people for food off their plate, but with pickles I admittedly don’t play by the rules!), which led to the admission of my obsession with pickles (it was basically a milestone in our relationship.).
The next time we went to Waffle House, I decided I was going to have control and refrained from asking Stephen for his pickles. We carried on our conversation and at the end of the meal when we had finished eating, I noticed Stephen’s pickle chips sitting there on his otherwise empty plate. “You forgot your pickles!” I exclaimed, kind of appalled that anyone would not eat the pickles they were given. In true Stephen fashion, he very nonchalantly said, “I saved them for you.”
Y’all, I should not have teared up over pickles, but that’s exactly what I did! Not just because I love pickles so much, it was the simple act of him having remembered that I like pickles, having sacrificed his chance to eat them (he likes them too after all!), and having put me before him. In this simple act, he showed that he was not only capable but willing to put me above himself. In one small little gesture, he conveyed a vast message about his abilities to be a life partner.
As it is in 1 John 4:12 “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” God abides in those who seek to love Him — we do not need to see Him as He is already in us, and in that little Waffle House in Raleigh, I saw His love in Stephen, wrapped up in that sweet little moment that we find so humorous now.
Stephen has saved his pickles for me every time we have gone to Waffle House since that day. Every time we go I am reminded that the love of Christ is not just found in large gestures and grand moments; it is found in the most unexpected of places in our every day lives. We don’t need to seek the love of God; it is already found and perfected inside of us.